16 weeks postpartum
Who struggles on Mother’s Day?
People who have lost their mums or can’t see them easily. My heart goes out to them.
And while they struggle with the reminders of their loss they try to remain happy for those of us who can celebrate. They’d do anything to be in our position.
The mums who feel under pressure because they didn’t get the lie in, or who’s kids were ill today and cried more than usual, or the ones who didn’t leave the house for an afternoon tea or pub lunch.
But they too remain grateful because they know there’s so many others who’d do anything to be in their position.
There’s lots of ways to feel about today. None of them more or less valid than the other.
And I suppose this is your reminder to not minimise how you feel just because someone would do anything to be in your position.
It’s just a day and it disappears.
The best mum mugs vanish from the shelves in Tesco.
During the week, I had to let off some steam about Instagram yet again. I cannot express enough how hard it is for small businesses using social media for advertising right now.
My quest to continue to grow my audience whilst on maternity leave so I have a stronger business to return to has been so much more taxing than I expected.
Having something that makes me more than a mum feels so grounding. I feel like I get to have an identity away from changing nappies and getting screamed at for cutting food up in the wrong way.
I love reading research and trying to make that into content. How long I can continue to do that with instagrams determination to squash small accounts I’m not sure.
The algorithm pleasers these days are content for contents sake. Reels that keep you hooked but don’t go anywhere are taking over.
If you want to see Instagram remain a platform that can stand for positive change, it’s so important to engage with the accounts you enjoy following and find useful.
Your likes are free! Don’t be a passive consumer. Please.
I want to offer you some wisdom from my house plants.
I had another tough week, nothing is really new to report. By Friday my cup felt completely empty.
Saturday morning I sat having a pee and looked at our resident bathroom peace Lily through sore and puffy eyes. One of the leaves is crusty and brown.
Great I thought. Another thing I’m not doing right.
Then, poking out from behind the crusty brown leaf I saw another leaf. New. Fresh. Shiny.
I realised that if I looked at the plant from one perspective it looked like it was dying, but from another, it’s thriving.
And I suppose this was just my reminder to make sure I’m always looking at things from every angle.
I hope you can feel nudged to do the same!
This week I don’t have much more to offer you but I hope you’re well.
Speak soon! But no worries if not